Don’t Ask Your Spirit Guides
If you’ve received a reading from me, then you know that the Board Room is the main metaphor I use to illustrate the way your spirit guides work with you. It’s crucial that you realize you are not praying to these entities — they are not an authority; you are the authority. You don’t work for your spirit guides; your guides and guardians work for you.
You are God — Act Like It
Spirit guides and guardian angels exist to serve the will of the Creator | the Source | God — you are a cloned physical incarnation of the Creator, empowered with your own free will. In your personal reality, you are the most direct manifestation of God — you are the way by which the Universal Consciousness experiences Itself, and the team of benevolent spirit entities assigned to assist you in this mission share your agenda.
You are the leader, here. God doesn’t have a self-esteem problem. Does the idea that you represent this kind of power make you uncomfortable? Responsibility is an imminent component of power — free will is an enormous responsibility. An even greater task is wielding power — acting as a true leader — with the highest intentions and for the greater good of all involved.
You came here to exercise, express, and practice this most supreme purpose. You must Step Up. Being a strong leader doesn’t mean you are good at everything, that you know how to do everything, that you don’t require help… The most effective leaders learn how to surround themselves with others who are more skilled and knowledgeable in areas they are not. The best leaders know how to delegate. [Check out Andrea Hess's post on Managing Your Spirit Guides]
If you feel powerless, ask yourself:
- What happened to my power?
- Who did I give it away to?
- Why am I afraid to use it?
- Is it easier for me to let someone else be in charge?
You were born with power and free will — it’s inherent — you are imminently worthy. Each and every moment, with every breath you take, you have a choice to access your power. Or not.
Your spirit guides do not have the power and free will; they are following your lead. The abundant Universe you’re waiting on is actually waiting on you. Commit to the responsibility of your position.
Communicating with Your Guides
With your commitment to the power of your position in mind, approach working with your guides as the leader of a team. You’re the CEO, here, meeting with your team of most-trusted advisors.
Set the Agenda
You’re the boss and you called this meeting to order for a reason — what is it? (It’s not to roll around on the floor throwing a temper tantrum and crying Why Me — that’s a performance… Not a strategy-planning session.)
Tell your guides why you’ve called on them:
- What’s the overall goal of this session?
- What are your intentions for soliciting the assistance of your guides at this moment?
If this is your first time communicating with your guides, your agenda is to establish contact. You’d like to meet them. You want your guides to introduce themselves to you or simply affirm for you that they are present. So take a Roll Call.
*A word about “asking”
We are socialized as children — trained — to “ask politely” when we order someone to do something for us. Yes, you should be positive; of course you should be grateful and respectful; thank them — absolutely. When working with your spirit guides, asking from a place of powerlessness, with no clear intent or direction, is spiritually impotent and frustrating for everyone involved.
Your guides are not omnipotent and they are not in charge. Take a good hard look at your word choice and the energy you’re projecting — are your cries for help too passive, open-ended, immature, or indirect?
If I advise you to “Ask your guides to this” or “Ask your guides to that” assume that what is really meant by “ask” is really “tell.” You are the authority; they can’t assist you or help you without your orders.
- Tell your spirit guides what course of action you are considering.
- Tell them to provide you with confirmation that this is the right path to take.
- Tell them to provide you with the resources to manifest your intentions.
Don’t worry so much about making the “wrong” choice — it’s much easier for your guides to let you know “Bad Idea” when you begin to move forward. If you’re heading down the wrong fork in the road, and every witness knows it, you’ll almost immediately encounter roadblocks left and right — you can pull back and go the other way, with confidence.
But keep in mind also that a crazy detour, difficult challenge, or hard lesson may be exactly what you most require — your guides will assist you in that, as well.
Don’t Ask — Tell
Instead of asking “What do I do?” rewrite your cries for help as delegated tasks:
“Here’s what I feel the best course of action may be… Here’s what I intend… Here’s what I see as a potential way forward…”
- “Assist me in making that happen.”
- “If there’s a better way, bring me options.”
- “Find me the resources.”
- “Arrange for me to discover the information I need.”
- “Put the people and the opportunities in my path.”
Help me out with the examples:
Can you share a question you’ve asked your spirit guides to help you with — the desperate, ineffective plea transformed into an empowered command for assistance?
Or do you have a real stumper that’s blocking you? A question that’s not working, that you’d like some assistance in reworking?
One of the most powerful and effective ways our guides assist us is through one another. It’s also easier sometimes to channel wisdom for another.. Leave a comment and let us all be your guides.
Contacting Your Spirit Guide 101
Free resources for Shift Your Spirits readers:
- Read the eBook by Slade Roberson especially for beginners who want to know who/what spirit guides are and how to communicate with them
- Listen to the mp3 preview of the Spirit Guide Attunement portion of the Talking to Your Spirit Guides class by Slade Roberson
- Try the meditation to Meet a Guide contributed by Jeff Lilly of Druid Journal
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I’m learning, thanks in no small part to you to be the Head Person In Charge with my guides. It feels a little odd, frankly, but I’m easing into it.
What I wanted to add though, is that three years ago in what I now recognize as the beginning of my mystical, eye-opening, conscious acknowledgement and communication with my guides, my plea consisted of nothing but a sobbing, anguished, “Help me, help me, please, oh please, help me.”
I didn’t know who I was crying out to or what exactly I hoped would come of it. I had just reached the absolute end. The bottom of the barrel. My existence was painful and pointless and I could see no way and no reason to go on.
I see now, in retrospect, that guides and angels rushed in with loving support, encouragement, and direction. Almost like they were collectively cheering, “Yay! Finally she’s asking for us!”
So while I agree that long-term, on-going communication with our guides must mature into more than a shot-in-the-dark cry for help, I also think sometimes, especially at the beginning, that’s where we’re at.
My spirit guide has actually told me that I’m going to do something and I’ve been given alot of visuals and insight that I don’t want to share with just anyone. I just need someone to help me better understand how I can do what they say I’m going to do. I’ve been taking notes and I’ve seen some pretty amazing things and I’ve seen some not so good things. This is very personal and private. If you have anything to share that might help me - any advice would be great! I’ve had this gift since I was a small child……….. I’m just now starting to take it seriously…..
Fantastic article as always, Slade! I don’t think we can have enough reminders to view ourselves as the Divine Creators of our physical experience - and our Guides are one of the key resources we have in our Divine self-expression.
I think when we give our Guides specific tasks and requests for guidance, we are also more immediately aware of their role in our lives. My Guides routinely get a financial agenda from me for the month. I ask them to find me business resources, to help me write my blog posts, and other creative endeavors.
I have to give my first speech at my Toastmaster’s Club tomorrow and had no idea what to talk about. Last night I specifically asked them to inspire me with a speech that would best serve my development as a public speaker. This morning, I was positively salivating to get to work on it! I barely finished my coffee - then I just had to get to my computer and get this speech out of me. And the whole time I’m just thinking “Go, Team Andrea - thank you, thank you, thank you!”
Blessings,
Andrea
Slade,
After my reading, I actually felt much more empowered to lead this group of “personal assistants.” Yes, it’s a little daunting sometimes when I really stop to think about it, but most of the time I feel empowered by thinking of myself as a leader. Think about it: When you are in a position of believing your Guides & Angels are the ones in charge, you give away all your power & start to believe that you are not in charge of your own life. WRONG! And I didn’t even realize I was giving away my power until after my reading. I still consider myself at the early stages of this newfound relationship with my guides, but my shift in perspective has helped to foster my position of leadership tremendously.
Love & Light,
Jewels
A friend of mine recently asked me, “If we have God, why do we need guides and angels watching over us and to give us information or tell us what to do with our lives?” I got the distinct feeling that she doesn’t feel that she needs them if she has God in her life.
Great message! It makes perfect sense. I think sometimes it’s hard to feel comfortable with the idea that you are your own Master of life, I guess it means you start becoming more accountable for your thoughts and actions. It’s my belief that the more specific and direct you are with your guides, the better they can help you.
Lola,
I’ve been there, too, in that “meltdown place” where the angels come rushing in, like an emergency emotional train wreck situation. So, I hear ya.
Imagine how much different that experience might have been for us if we knew what we know now? My hope is that other people reading posts like this one will be empowered to get that assistance in a frame of mind that’s more productive — maybe someone else can “get there” without requiring a frightening trip to rock bottom. You know?
But thanks for sharing your experience — I know we can relate — and I have no doubt that those “Rolling on the floor (not laughing)” episodes are still exactly what’s called for sometimes.
Laura,
As you say, you’ve had this gift for a long time and are just now using it from a new perspective of conscious awareness — that in itself should “upgrade” the quality of the information you receive. I am a little concerned by the mention of “not so good” stuff you’re going to do?
Without knowing the nature of what these steps on your path are, exactly, I can only recommend this: Are you being challenged by something you’re resisting that’s a good thing in and of itself? For example, I was very fearful of starting a blog like this, talking publicly about my experiences, or putting myself out there and doing readings for people. Now, I see where that has indeed led me, and I look back and wonder what the hell I was so freaked out about.
But, if you’re being directed to do anything hurtful, negative, etc, I would question who it is you’re talking to and what their agenda may be. I assume this is NOT the case, but just know that your guides may set challenges for you but they absolutely will not direct you to do something morally questionable or dangerous or as a “means to an end” — divine guidance is always uplifting and supportive.
Andrea,
You bring up a very important point about observation/results — many people ask “How do I know ____ is coming from my guides?” One of the best ways is taking action on the information and seeing what happens. The more you practice acting on it, the more you see how it works, how it all plays out… Just like a scientist, you take a hypothesis (your guides’ recommendation), test it — do it — take a step in that direction, and then observe what happens as a result.
Sitting on the fence wanting confirmation BEFORE you act — well, good luck with that, right?
I really look forward to hearing about your experience with Toast Masters. I have trophies from when I was kid for oration contests — these were usually sponsored by some civic organization and were actually a lot of the same kinds of things I’m concerned with speaking about now — Patriotism, Self-Esteem, Perseverance… I never had trophies for sports — but I realize now that I may have confronted a major challenge/fear that a lot of people have: Public Speaking.
I’m very curious to see how that would hold up today — I may require some serious brushing up — Toast Masters might be the perfect way to find out.
In line with what I mentioned to Laura above, being guided to join Toast Masters and practicing your public speaking ability may indeed be something you fear but as a benevolent challenge to move you forward.
So, your example would be something along the lines of “Help! What do I talk about?” transformed into the directive “Inspire me with a topic to talk about.” I hope everyone reading this sees the powerful, practical distinction…
Jewels,
Thank you, darlin, for sharing that Shift! That’s major…
Patricia,
I’m sure a lot of people feel similarly to your friend.
Rob,
I think you nailed it with that comment — thank you!
Ok…although there is no such thing as a stupid question…i have one…lol…;-)
If we are in constant contact with our spirit guides, and we are in charge, delegating and seeking advice from them…is prayer to God, then, more of a communing? More of a reconnecting, reenergizing, recentering experience? And then when we’re actually planning and taking action we just communicate with our guides?
Oh no…………. just good things to do. I just see good things and not so good things…….. like premonitions that I wish I could control or help the people that it involves. But the things I’ve been asked to do - are only good. In fact, pretty amazing. The thing is I don’t relate to anyone - and I talk to a few people that can only listen and just believe what I say. But they don’t relate because they don’t experience it - so they can’t truly understand what I’m experiencing. I almost wish that I could form a group of people that I can talk with about the things I see and get help interpreting and make it better - because some of the things I see are just so truly amazing….. and the guide that talks to me - oh my gosh - it’s crystal clear - more clear than anyone else talking to me and when she talks it’s energy I’ve never felt before. In fact, I’ve told her that she is coming thru to strong - she gets me so excited - that I lose her in the middle of her talking to me at times. There is also a man that is starting to come thru. I just need guidance from someone who understands.
Laura,
You wrote:
You absolutely should form such a group — it is one of the reasons I created this blog. I live in a very, very conservative right-wing evangelical Christian community. Although physically creating this community might be approaching impossible, I am able to do so virtually, on a global scale, and bring together like-minded souls that I might not have the opportunity to know.
So, I hope until such time as you DO initiate a community of your own (if you are called to do so) that you will feel that you have found some of that in the readers here (and the other bloggers who participate and link here).
Yo, Andrea!
(and VM, this is in response to your question).
VM, I would need the space of an article to describe this answer — because it’s such a Great Question!
Impromptu Blog Tag, anyone?
I’m inviting Andrea to take this on as an invitation for a post — I would like to do the same.
VM, I feel it would be interesting to see what kind of answer you would come up with to your own question…
If any other blogger feels called to answer this one, please leave a link to your post here in the comments.
Keep in mind that we’re dealing with The Mysteries — the Answers aren’t nearly as important as the Questions we contemplate in moving toward Answers…
Taking up the offer to give my thoughts on VM’s most excellent thought.
In my humble opinion, it would seem that if indeed all is ONE and each of us are a wee spark of ALL THAT IS along with our spirit guides, angels, ect are also a wee spark of ALL THAT IS then yes our continual communion with our spirit guides, angels is indeed a pathway to being that spark of ALL THAT IS
Slade…
I honestly appreciate your email/newsletters of this blog. I have to say, this last one is probably the best one you have done so far (in my opinion!).
I don’t have much to say right now, but thanks.. I really liked this last one a lot. Also, I think it is brave of you to speak so CLEARLY and forthright about energy, and thank you for the 83% less hearts and flowers! I like both hearts and flowers, but we all know that there are many energies to life, so many… I love a good thunderstorm as much as a pretty beach rose.
Both are useful, and natural…
Keep up your columns, and great work!
Great information! Having this contact with guides for 10+ years and recently
coming out of the closet I gravitated towards
you and the library of information you provide. What a relief
to meet fellow trekies so to speak. Been waiting for
a long time for this! Love and light, Deb
oops hit enter too soon! So Sorry.
My inital thought to the posed question is that through working with our guides, angels we are also working with God. As all are the same when boiled down to the original basics.
Also in my humble opinion, I believe God is a lovely, accepting, generous God. Even though I was raised with a roman catholic background (and maybe due to it) I find it hard to believe that God is mean or demanding or punishing. We are the ones whom are mean, demanding and punishing to ourselves as well as others. God is the creator and he wants his creation to realize they are part of him and have the power to be accepting, loving, helpful. Guides are another avenue for the creator to help up wake up and we ourselves for what we truly are.
Peace,
Colleen
I have posted an answer to my own question in my blog. Please read and leave comments…
Thanks!
A fair number of entities among my guides are actually pagan gods, so it is odd to think of ordering them about. And when I first contacted them, they gave me a lot of specific direction. But more and more frequently of late, they’ve been saying, “Well, what do YOU want to do?” The thrust of their teaching has been that using my own free will to make decisions is the quickest and most effective way to learn, so I should do that.
They will support my decision and help me learn from it as quickly and thoroughly as possible, so in that sense I am indeed ‘commanding’ them… though in a very reverent way. 
I wonder if this addresses VM’s question, too?…
I, too, am taking up the offer to respond to VM’s question. Note, though, that this concept of Spirit Guides and communication with them is relatively new for me.
First, I do believe that we, at the soul-level, are each pieces of God, All That Is, as are our Spirit Guides, and everything else that Is.
I remember at 5 years old, sitting in Sunday School being taught that God was not just in Heaven, but in each and every one of us, that we were part of Him and He was part of us. That we are made in his image (somehow at 5 I didn’t get hung up on the fact that we all look so different from each other…somehow I knew that wasn’t what that meant) and that our souls were separate from the bodies they lived in while here on Earth.
So, from that I decided that praying to God could include “talking to yourself”, or simply feeling that connectedness as a source of Love in your life, or you could actually get on your knees, close your eyes, and pray like they required in church - whatever worked for you. And you could do all of it, or something completely different. (Yes, I really do remember contemplating such things at that age. LOL)
So, now, I understand the concept of Spirit Guides to be (and to further your Board Room analogy) the other spiritual entities that are also a part of All That Is like me (except without the body and free of this 3rd dimensional plane) that have been assigned by All That Is to assist me while I am here in this plane. Their directive from All That Is is to take direction from me, without interfering in what I’m setting out to do (preserving the concept of my Free Will), but always being there supporting me and waiting for me to ask for their help.
With this added element of Spirit Guides who are also part of All That Is like I am, I would say that when I’m talking to my Guides, I’m also talking to God, Conversely, when my Guides are talking to me, it’s also God talking to me.
Of course, I could have it all wrong, but this works for me.
Just to clarify…I was basically asking this: if we’re constantly dealing with our spirit guides…when/how do we interact with God/Source?
Slade, you already know how much I got out of this post, since I mentioned it over at my blog. But I decided to also run an experiment of sorts, and use your suggestions of directing my Spirit team with a decision I needed to make. I posted the results over at http://movingspirit.typepad.com/spirit_in_gear/2008/02/what-i-learned.html#more.
Thank you for your light and inspiration, and for creating a place for the rest of us kindred folk to meet up at.
Spirit guides are of particular interest to me because I’ve never heard nor seen one, but at the same time I’ve had a sneaking suspicion that they are there looking out for me, sending me messages, and ultimately guiding me.
On more than one occasion, something “dangerous” has happened (like exploding glass) where I wasn’t injured… not even touched. I’ve noticed it more often during times of challenge or distress — when my spiritual life is active and potentially at crossroads.
I would love to be able to hear my spirit guides in a more intuitive or clairaudient sense. My guess is though, they either don’t think I’m ready, don’t think it’s necessary, or there’s a part of me still keeping me from hearing them.
Slade, You mention above that you live in a conservative community. I do as well, (Colorado Springs) and I notice that the energy of the town here brings in spiritual people from all walks of life. The Conservative Christians may speak louder than others, but we all want the same thing - to feel one with, loved, and closer to God.. (whatever that might mean to each of us individually) ….So I wonder - do the conservative communities also bring in the opposite energy to balance? or are we all attracted to the light …… (Where 2 or more gather…….)
Slade, I very much appreciate your directness, your kind of metaphysical butt-kicking.
The best and most direct way to empowerment is simply to sit quietly and wake up to who you are.
I write about self-development at my blog and I found you ideas direct and helpful. I will refer my readers to check you out.
Check out my site and let me know what works for you,
Joseph
http://www.ExploreLifeBlog.com
Yesterday, as I was straightening up my dresser in my bedroom, I ran across something that I felt was channeled through me back on Sept. 3, 2003. I read the note that I had written myself and put it away.
This morning I read Michelle’s comment and knew why I found that note yesterday. Here is what it said: “As much Light as there is in the world, there is an equal amount of Darkness until all give up thoughts of duality.” Cool or what.
I wrote those words back on Sept. 3, 2003 but there were not my words. I knew it at the time. They were much too wise to have been mine alone. I think they answer Michelle’s question quite well. I don’t mind if others agree or disagree.
Colleen,
I want to let as many people contemplate (and respond to) VM’s question as want to, before weighing in with my own thoughts — but I will say this, for now, there is no wrong answer, here… Thanks for sharing your thoughts!
Char Marie,
You liked this one best? Thank you. I really appreciate your telling me that — it gives me a sense of direction that I wouldn’t otherwise have. And I love what you said about thunderstorms and roses. Well said!
Deb,
A library — that’s a huge compliment and a tall order, from my perspective, to work towards. I personally have quite a ways to go, but I feel that the true energy resource here is created in collaboration, to which you contribute. So thank you for helping to make this space.
Jeff,
I think about it this way — a CEO of a powerful, successful business may not have the kind of beauty, personality, or face value to star in his own commercials, so he may hire a gorgeous super-model. He may not have been to law school, but if he needs an attorney, he may hire the biggest hot shot lawyer to represent him. A president may appoint advisors to his cabinet who have expertise he’ll never gain in this lifetime.
That’s the very definition of strong leadership — coupled with respect and gratitude.
Suzanne,
That sums it up for me quite nicely. There’s very little I could add to that…
A-MEN!
Deb Call,
You’re very welcome — thanks for the link!
Chris,
I feel the intervention in times of danger you describe is probably the action of your personal guardian angels, specifically — still entities within your personal team of guides and guardians.
I think most people would agree with you that your focus on divine assistance is particularly powerful during times of stress — your guides become either more wonderfully apparent, or else you desperately wish they would…
One way that I feel you can develop a stronger, clearer signal is to work with your guides when things are going incredibly well. This is something I personally work on a lot, with great results…
Michelle,
Thank you for that optimistic perspective. You should know that honestly, I used the word “conservative” because I was grasping for something more positive than close-minded, homophobic, bigoted, segregated… the opposite of an ideally diverse community. “Where two or more gather…” certainly, but not for the purposes of excluding, controlling, hating others, or dismissing…
But I will definitely look at it from the angle you suggest and see how that may further transform my discomfort and anger.
Joseph,
Thank you sharing your link and your encouragement — “butt-kicking metaphysical” is a compliment that makes me smile! I definitely admire the wicked good, and the bad-ass with a heart of gold.
I must tell you that I personally have to smile politely when someone suggests to me “sitting quietly” — I know what you mean but the concept is so far outside my experience or frame of reference… I’m clairaudient, so my mind is gloriously populated and loud. But it’s cool, I’ve adapted, and although quiet is not a word I can wrap my brain around, I can relate to words like stillness, concentration, etc…
For some of us, easier said than done. Prescription: do something different — whatever works!
Patricia,
That’s what I call a shining sentence — delicious experience — love those!
Unless I missed something while reading through these posts…… I don’t believe I heard anyone mention the energy that comes through from your spirit guide(s). I mentioned that when my spirit guide comes through - it is so crystal clear at times and uplifting and the energy is so great that it will almost immediately make me lose her because it’s so powerful. The feeling will stay with me for hours and I’m curious if you guys know what I’m talking about?
Also, I’ve been having people who have died coming to me - one that I found out who the message went to recently and it was truly a nice thing to share with the people he belonged too. Also, I’ll get visions like I’m right there - the visions - sometimes I’m not sure if they already happened or are about to happen - and it really bothers me at times because if it’s a vision that is not so good - you want to help, but you can’t unless your given more information and sometimes it’s too late. Do you guys also experience this, and if you do - how do you cope especially when you just can’t tell anyone?
Oh and one more thing…………… Seeing the energy around people and things all the time……. Please tell me someone on here sees it too……… I know this all sounds strange - but that’s what this is for, right? So you can talk to other people who see what you see and relate.
Laura,
You might find some mention of energy responses and emotional sensations — the impulses — that result from communicating with your guides in the extensive comments to the post How Do Your Spirit Guides Respond to You
I’m also privy to a greater amount of private, one-on-one experiences from those I do readings for… I can assure you that nearly everyone reports an overwhelming sense of well-being and joy — the energy I believe you’re describing…
I can’t speak for everyone, obviously, but I don’t personally experience a lot messages from the recent dead — sometimes, but rarely — if this happens to you, then you are a medium, in the most literal sense of the word.
I do often receive messages from other people’s spirit guides, even when they have not given their permission or sought me out for a reading. These are usually extreme circumstances, emergencies, where some intervention is required.
Like you, I wouldn’t always know how to proceed with delivering the information — there’s a lot of “politics” involved sometimes, and factors such as the person’s belief system or openness to that kind of information. I will tell you that I have more often regretted not conveying those kinds of messages than finding a way to do it…
The majority of the time, it’s usually for someone I know well enough to at least email if not talk to. Honestly, I find it’s most effective to simply downplay where the information comes from or how I know it. I paraphrase and casually insert the messages into my own conversation.
There is rarely a reason for them to know my role in a delivery. If someone asks “How do you know that?” or “Why are you telling me this?” then I may have that conversation.
Seeing energy — I assume you’re referring to auras, which a lot of people see and read, even without realizing it. Do you see disturbance patterns or localized images when viewing someone’s aura? What I mean by this is, do you see smudges, breaks, or bubbles that cling to a certain part of the body?
This is generally the kind of clairvoyance that a medical intuitive displays.
Yes, you are welcome to ask these kinds of questions, or describe what you experience with the intention of communicating with like-minded souls. Absolutely! That’s one of the main reasons I created this blog, maintain it, and encourage the readers to participate in the comments.
Thanks for sharing.
Slade, I also appreciate your “metaphysical butt-kicking” style. There was so much power in this post. It made me feel strong. Since to date my guides have been silent (I know, they are guiding, I’m just not tuned in yet) I wonder if my tone of “requesting” needs to change?
Can you direct me to your post “What to do when you can’t hear your guides?”
You must have written something like that right?
This is outstanding work, man. Seldom do I read through every comment and find so much meat all the way. What a ride. Thank you.
Tom
PS I attempted a stumble and they told me it was a bad URL. Let me know when it’s good and I’ll stumble again.
Tom,
That this post made you “feel strong” is an ideal response. Personal empowerment and self-esteem is the underlying message or intention of everything I post, so your comment is a great affirmation of that mission.
I did not see anything wrong with the URL for this post and it has been included by a few others in StumbleUpon already… So, I don’t know — glitch? Something on your end?
Thanks for trying though.
I wanted to reply to Laura’s post about the energy from guides. I feel their energy that is crystal clear and very uplifting! The energy from them is nothing I have ever experienced. It is such a boost! However, when an energy pattern comes in that is low, it is big heaviness. This is why they have guided me to stay in the middle ground-. I pick up peoples energies, make contact with dead people-(my father regularly) have visions and premonitions. I see my guides, they flicker like tinkerbell, they try to cheer me up when my human timing is off.The spirit is always on time-HA… Do I feel alone? Yes! I am hoping to find a town where everyone is like us, In the meantime I am used to staying undercover especially living here in ” Mayberry”(Charleston) S.C.
I think California is the place for us. Blessings,Deb
Hello:
I’m new at communicating with my spirit guides. I’ve heard two different distinct audible male voices that just about scared me to death. I was so frightened I didn’t have the courage to speak back. However, they were both kind. I was simply caught off guard.
I didn’t not see them and would prefer not to. I’m not that brave. I’m a rather nervous person.
Nevertheless I am comforted by the fact they are here. I know they have good-intentions. I speak to them throughout the day and ask their help for many things and they help me all the time.
But I don’t know how to receive their help with money. I am at times nearly destitute. I have had to get assistance from churches to help pay for my electricity bill. I have run out of food before and the churches have assisted me with food, etc.
I do work. I work as a home health aide. Plus I am in school. Also, I am mid-life career changer, and will begin RN school this summer. I do volunteer work in my community by working as a mental health advocate, and this is truely where my heart is. I do this all for free. I have a heart for hurting people. I’ve been told I have psychic empathy. I’ve also helped the senior citizens for free many times transportating them in my car taking them here and there or running errands for them.
I said all that to say this. My car is on it’s last leg. It’s a 1992, Dodge. It’s been a great car. But it’s just worn out. It gets 20 miles to the gallon. It’s got a terrible oil leak. I need to have the oil change real bad and I don’t have the money. It needs another tune up I’m sure. But really I just need a new car.
From all of the volunteer work I’ve done, and taking the seniors all around that poor car has held up really well for what’s it’s been through.
I’ve asked my spirits guides for a new car many times over. I’ve included the date, time, etc. BUT NO CAR. NO CAR.
Now, I get in the car and just pray it gets me to work. It’s days are numbered.
I will value any suggestions you can give me.
Deborah
OKC
Glad I found this site (googling a simple question). So useful to me in going through the different topics. This one is more current so perhaps people are still checking it.
I am impressed by so many people who can actually communicate regularly with their guides. I’m curious as to anyone who has some suggestions for some
starter pointers? I’m having trouble hearing my guides (or perhaps asking them!).
It seems being specific and direct is the way to go; Deborah I laughed - loudly- as your ‘I give a financial agenda to mine (guides..) - way to out them to work!
Though I have many good things in my life- blessings- I am in a transition or shift right now. My husband is also trying to ask his guides for help. Usually it works with him but it seems we are both ‘off’. Is there anything we might be doing wrong? Perhaps our energy is ‘blocked?’ I really could use their help right now so want to know the right way to go about doing so..
In the meantime I am trying to keep my energy clear as possible (lifestyle, meditation..) to facilitate that.
And Slade, both you and Lola mentioned feeling the ‘rushing in’ of your guides to help you when you asked. I have asked (HELP!) but..no such luck. I’m just going to keep at it.
Thanks all!
I have found you while googeling the question “knowing your spirit guides names” and bingo!
Thank you!!!! I have been asking ever so politely and have been getting no where……Reading this just caused the mental light switch to go on rofl…… I have to tell my guides what I need assistance with. an epiphany moment :))
Sonn,
Another alternative is also to frame your questions in a close-ended format — questions that can be answered with a Yes or a No. I describe this tip in more detail in my free download Contacting Your Spirit Guides 101.
So, a better process for discovering the names your guides will answer to is to:
1. Tell them to reveal their names to you.
2. Once you have some source or cue regarding a name, then frame the confirmation question in a close-ended form: example “Is your name Mary?”
thanks for your reply :)) silly question now and I feel like a goose asking and stating this too…… I have several names pop into my head over a number of days……I have seen the face of one of them, his eyes were pools of dark and soooo nice, his smile was so bright and white and he was happy. he gave his name as chuktun, then there is archios, aleksandar, lele, Jeremia and now Kaliopie. I find it strange that when I wrote those names down, the spelling was ever so important. I know aleksandar has been with me for many years as we have had conversations ( although at the time it seemed very one sided)
Do these spirits HAVE to follow your request? if they don’t are there consequences for them in the spiritual?
As far as the download you mentioned, the pdf format I have but the meditation link does not work.
Thank you for this site, I think it;s great….and I do appreciate that you reply personally to questions
Hi there, I realy want to share this with you cause I am really exited and happy
I finally got the download for the meditation on meeting your guide. I did the meditation last night, meet up with more than one, requested that when they are with me that they give me a signal. I had also requested they keep away any negative energy/entity and one in particular ( a geart great gransmother - who was know to be very nasty and mean) Afterwards I slept like a baby, best sleep I had since I was a teen, no tossing or turning.
This morning before work I was sitting on my couch waiting to leave and to my delight had a fragrance of a bouquet of flowers in my loungeroom, and I knew instintively it was from one of my guide and it made me feel soooo gooood!!! anyway, i did not feel like work today and I was sent home!!! on annual leave at that !! I was delighted. When I arrived I decided to meditate again as I have ample time this morning and not only did my group show, but to my delight a lion (leo) showed and a dog as well( this dog, her name was sheba) felt like my first ever dog here in Australia and my mum and dad showed too!!!! I dare say it was a most emotional time ( happy), i still have a tear in my eye telling you this. I can’t believe my mum, dad and sheba coming!! How awesome!!
I am looking forward to learning more
I just want to say thank you so very much. Reading your article is confirmation for me. Thank your for sharing your inner knowledge to the world. This information will definitely assist & guide me as well as my friends.
Thank you again
Hi Slade,
Thanks a lot for this article. It gives a lot of insight and information. I will remember these the next time I contact my guides. I very much appreciate this and look forward to reading more articles from you.
Regards,
Gayathri.
[...] Hi Erin, I will look forward to your blog. I am sure it will be a great help to all of us fledgling eagles! Meanwhile, I had contact with Jonathan twice yesterday. He came to me when I was doing other everyday stuff and just thinking about spirit guides. But both times were really busy for me and I had to end the connection sooner than I would have liked But both these times, the connection opened sort of spontaneously, and there was no shivering / jerking / goosebumps. I just thought about my spirit guides and I started hearing the voice inside my head. Is that possible? Also, during meditation yesterday I set up protection and tried really hard to open myself up and contact the spirit guides, but it did not work out Guess I am yet to master the art of summoning them at will Today, I again had another contact. But I am not sure it was Jonathan, because this entity was a little bit different. I asked him whether he had a message for me and he gave me a really long message, the gist of which is that I am entering a phase of exponential growth and a lot of experiences will come to me, and that I should be open-minded and brave about them. The message was spoken in a serious, yet caring way, sort of like the stuff a parent may tell a child upon her coming-of-age. (He felt like Sirius Black from Harry Porter, as regards the personality I felt.) He did not give me a name and said I can call him anything I wish. I wanted it to be Jonathan but I knew somehow that it wasn’t him. The message was seriously long. Then a little later on today, I had a very persistant and strong tingling in the back of my neck when I was about to read an article by Slade Roberson about how to approach Spirit Guides. Don’t Ask Your Spirit Guides : Shift Your Spirits Many suggestions in this article were very new to me, and I guess my Spirit Guides want me to use them in my further contacts with them. I am trying my best to be brave and open-minded through all this. I am not psychic and except for some small incidents of premonition, I haven’t really had psychic experiences either. Although I have had voices in my head advising me before - but then I knew zilch about Spirit Guides etc and thought I must be just really wise for my age whenever a good idea came through I hope it is okay even if the spirit guides do not come to me during my meditation and only come spontaneously? Also is it possible that this second entity who made contact with me is another guide that I may have? Will I be able to contact them through meditation or dreams if I really try? Should I tell them to come to me only when I initiate contact? Am I well on my way to la-la land or are these for real? Thanks so much for reading the post, and for any help and insight you could offer. Love, Gayathri. __________________ Personality Development, Growth, Success. http://www.gayathrimoosad.com The Personality Development Workbook [...]
[...] Avoid “should I…” in the context of prayer and soliciting assistance from your spirit guides. Remember, that they are not in control, they play a supportive role and require your direction to assist you. [...]
Good morning! I have been enjoying reading your post and keep coming back to this entry. I went to a spiritual retreat in October 2007 where I first experienced the power of gratitude as a vital springboard to connecting with spirit. in the months since, that practice has lead to other fruit. there was a point a few months back where i was honestly realizing and feeling that my happiness was not my company’s responsibility. it was my own AND i was good for it. there is definitely a notion about power involved. fast foward now. i am coming off a couple of beautiful months of connection and exchange. the kind where giving is not a zero or negative sum game but a multiplier. i can sense my soul, my creative consciousness wants to expand.
YET, for some reason this week, i find myself facing fear. so much fear i go to work and feel it rising in my throat. i have felt myself knock against despair, pretty much every day i go there. its been tough. its a job and firm i want to leave. who i am is not seen nor invested in. and when i get scared, its only immature efforts i seem to be able to make to reach out to my spirit guides. it just feels like a bad place. and i am wondering if you had tools or suggestions for facing it or helping myself.
PS. (i did write to them once this week. we got past the immature part and i felt they were glad i was finally asking for help. they also seemed to encourage me to stand up (for myself?). I guess i am scared that the intangibles, as good as they do feel inside, have not yet come to fruition to something solid; my mind wants to grab onto a more tactical escape hatch. my workload is winding down (like lack of project work) which is what triggered this freakout this week. it feels like i dont want to support my role in that scene at all but can i just leave with no option formulated to wålk to? Thanks for listening. it helped me to write about this.
Monisha,
When you grow and expand on a spiritual level, wonderful, positive things happen in your life; but unfortunately the changes and shifts that occur can also manifest as growing pains — situations that may have worked for you before, such as relationships or jobs — the structures no longer work.
One of the most difficult things to accept is that when you change everything and everyone around you must change to conform to your newfound will. Think of your energy as a musical note, a key on a piano, that other energies are in harmony or dissonance with — when you change that note, that vibration, that energy, the other notes must also change in order to remain harmonious.
Suddenly, there are a lot of notes that are suddenly off; they may not have changed or expanded along with you. Some notes (people, situations, patterns of behavior) remain stuck.
Change is the one thing you can count on, but when you willfully make successful changes, the results are not guaranteed to feel positive.
Yet, is a new discomfort with an awareness that a situation or relationship that no longer works for you a “bad” thing? If, on the road ahead, the bridge had washed out, are the flashing warning lights and barricades “bad” or are they serving you?
Your body is the most powerful divination tool you have. The strong physical sensations you describe experiencing are warnings, alarms going off, something is wrong.
Bless the Universe, your body, your guides, for giving you such strong physical information to alert you to a problem.
Once you get the message, the alarms will subside. What is this “negative” situation trying to communicate to you? What is teaching you? What direction is it point to?
Once you have that sense of direction, you can detach from the emotion and realize that ALL things are ultimately temporary. Is it time for you to go? If you know this, then begin taking steps to go elsewhere.
Inaction breeds anxiety.
Now, that does not mean that you have to “walk out” without a plan, but I’d be lying if I said I hadn’t found myself in unbearable situations where the only way out was to leave in a “bad” way. Be a grownup about it; a calm, collected exit strategy will always be a benefit. It’s easier to find a job when you still have one. There is great freedom in quitting, but there’s a lot of uncertainty that comes along with that kind of bold leap. Don’t leap without a plan if you’re likely to freak out during the coming free fall…
Here’s what I suggest you do — Andrea Hess just published an article with a fantastic exercise at the end.
You can use her technique to form an empowered plan and create the exit you feel you need. Your spirit guides can get behind any plan you make with greater power than they can provide you with the plan itself.
[...] Collect your questions and “schedule a meeting” with your guides. Choose a specific time and place, a part of your day or your week you can set aside just for communicating with your guides, and sit down and tackle the questions all at once. [...]
u have really helped me. I mean trust me I was so out of the “know”
Now I feel like I’ve learned something and I guess I just wonder why I was never told this before.
thank you for posting this information
Dee — by any chance, are you the Dee that wrote to me recently regarding the “Meet a Guide” meditation? If so, could you try again at firefly dot jelly at gmail dot com? I tried to reply to you, but got bounced.
Hi Slade,
I’m new to the site and have been devouring your articles! (I think I found you through Steve Pavlina, or maybe Jeff Lilly… or both, I guess.) This one really struck home with me. I don’t know if this was precisely your intention, but I’m now seeing the Goddess–in particular, the One who has called me to Her, Ereshkigal–as my Higher Self. This worldview fits really well with other thoughts I’ve had in the past that didn’t make sense at the time. So, thank you! I’m so glad I found your site! I’m working on actually integrating the lessons I’ve learned so far here into my life. (See, I said “working on,” not “trying to”!)
hello. i am a teenager and working on my “spiritual” side, like my true Being, Home, Enlightenment, and such esoterics. i have always been in a tormenting struggle whether i should function in my normal, daily consciousness or in these spiritual mindset. this makes me feel so very very uncomfortable because the way i look at the world, at myself is altered, my perceptions are altered, and this causes a shock or psychological disorientation, feeling of being confused with reality. please please help me deal with this stage. thank you.
Good afternoon,
Firstly just to say that your statement regarding asking spirit guides to put us in the path of the right people, etc, I believe as otherwise I would not have read your posting regarding “Don’t Ask your Spirit Guides.”
I feel as though I have reached a cross roads in my life; both career and personally . I have just completed a 3 year course and this was with the intention to change my life and head me in the direction I wished to go. Now I am here I am feeling a little lost and stuck for answers. Unsure as to where my lifepath is? Therefore I am slightly unsure as to what to ask the Spirit Guides as I feel I would come across as I do not know where I am now headed (that would be correct though). So I am going to trust in the universe bringing to me what I now need and where I may need to direct my energies.
So many events have happened lately; regarding losing a number of friends (due to outgrowing one another I think) and so again that has made me question a number of things and what may be in store for the future. To be honest though I have always had trouble thinking what I want for the future: how I want things to manifest and where I wish to go. It always just seem to happen without too much thought on my part - as though drifting along.
Hope this makes sense and that there may be someone else who has gone through this process and may have some advice. Many thanks.
PS Just to add, as like Monisha it has definately helped me to write down my thoughts, so again thank you.
This was so helpful. Thank you. I recently read Ainsley McLeod’s book “The Instruction.” Through that I’ve become interested in learning more about spirit guides and how best to work with them.
Cheers,
Dawn
Slade–I never got to thank you properly for your response. I felt wonderfuly energy from your response and it always stayed with me as a connection.
I wanted to write to share with a blog which I started as a way to connect with what inspires me. Today for the first time, I wrote about gratitude about my weight loss struggle for the last 15 years. I can’t believe I could ever genuinely feel gratitude for it but I do. I have learned so much that now…dieting has transformed into self-feeding. Something told me to write to you about this particular post. If you have a chance, do check out inlets.wordpress.com.
So when I looked at the message you wrote to me, I love that you wrote that my body is my greatest divination tool. I have suddenly awoken to the fact that i am in a relationship with my body, and it is a giving one. i can’t believe how my weight loss journey has also at the same time been about my relationship to myself, in a deeply loving and ironically gentle way. (isn’t it beautiful?) so i wanted to share that with you and i thought it best to share with the post i wrote.
The thing with my throat….and my current job. I am making my way on this. Acknowleding the messages I was getting was an important first step. Part of it has to do with using my voice as a way to own my power. and making a plan…I desire very much to see the solution. for now still in progress, i am laying down at least one brick though. working on laying down more. i love that i found your site and your energy and what you have to give!
(YET, for some reason this week, i find myself facing fear. so much fear i go to work and feel it rising in my throat. i have felt myself knock against despair, pretty much every day i go there. its been tough. its a job and firm i want to leave. who i am is not seen nor invested in. and when i get scared, its only immature efforts i seem to be able to make to reach out to my spirit guides. it just feels like a bad place. and i am wondering if you had tools or suggestions for facing it or helping myself.)
I can totaly relate to what is/was happening here….I was in a work situation myself that was bad to say the least and my body was reacting in a negative way, thinking about going to work gave me back aches and headaches.
I had no backup plan, I just left. I made the decision to leave on a Sunday and as soon as I did that I felt a wave of happiness and freedom just float over me, on Monday I handed in my resignation.
The tensing of your throat tells me that you have something that needs to be said, unspoken words have a tendancy to do that.
I know for myself, this time of unemployment I need to use for my own growth
Personally I feel its all about how our energies are channelized.our conscious takes the right decision and directs energy towards the right cause.
You stirred many souls slade.
Great post.
@ Sonn
I have experienced it myself what you are talking about.Somethings just don’t feel right.But I have learned to take charge and make things work my way.
Recognizing a conscious and deliberate intention within yourself is a powerful thing. People often underestimate the implications of tapping into their own inner-knowing. When you interact with a spirit guide, it is useful to recognize you invited this being for a purpose. You never forget the reasons. You may only permit fear or judgment to take control of your mind temporarily. When this happens, you discern the inner conflict as an exercise to work through it so that you eventually master it. Guides are constantly empowering us to be true to ourselves. It takes a period of experience to begin to grasp that.
I’ve been communicating with my guides for years, and would like to congratulate you on a well written and informative post. Your advice is excellent.