I was becoming increasingly disappointed with some of my friends.
Over the past several months, the evidence of what they seemed to lack was continually mounting. In my mind, whispers began, false logic about conditional love:
"If he would only... then I could..."
"She needs to stop... or I can't continue to..."
I was making myself miserable with everyone's shortcomings. Everyone's failures left me feeling isolated. It was starting to seem easier to just retreat, withdraw, get rid of everyone...
Then I read this:
"When I look at a sunset, I don't say, 'Soften the orange a little on the right hand corner, and put a bit more purple in the cloud color.'" Pioneering psychologist Carl Rogers was describing the way he observed the world. "I don't try to control a sunset," he continued. “I watch it with awe." He had a similar view about people. "One of the most satisfying experiences," he said, "is just fully to appreciate an individual in the same way I appreciate a sunset."
Your emotional well-being will thrive as you refrain from trying to "improve" people — as you see and enjoy them for who they are.
— Rob Brezsny's Free Will Astrology
This wisdom needs no improvement.
It shifted everything.